This post will be pretty much completely bifurcated, but that’s alright because both topics are meaningful. I’ll start with the more obscure:
Brad, Robert, and I have been contacted by MTV to plug a new special following “It Gets Better.” The one hour documentary aims to illustrate the struggles, both intense and non-existent, that LGBT teens, 15-25, have gone through or are going through. It is important to MTV to find a range of people to really show the spectrum that gay kids represent. They are looking for everything from kids who were disowned by their parents to kids who never had a problem. Please read on here (MTV website.) Apply if you want and pass the info on to your friends!
I also want to recognize the enactment of the DADT repeal on Monday. I believe all the dross some congressmen and lobbying groups spit about the repeal diminishing the effectiveness of our military is complete and utter bullshit. If anything, keeping secrets from your brothers and sisters on the front line is more poisonous than the imagined discomfort being openly gay would cause everyone. But this is a moot point because the military and military advisers can now focus on more pressing issues (like air conditioning!) I just want to share this video that I’m sure many of you have already seen because it was featured on the Daily Show and more news circuits I’m sure. This soldier shows two different sides to not just being gay in the military, but the coming out process in general. He is of course tense about coming out to his parents because it’s stressful to everyone. He and his father show everyone that there are no stereotypes or preconceived biases when it comes to military families. The on problem is that this soldier is still subjected to being afraid of those biases even though they’re not real. He is afraid his parents won’t accept for whatever reason without having a rationale for the fear. The real struggle for gay kids and adults coming out isn’t what people say to them. It’s what they say to others and it’s what they keep quiet about. Until there is no stigma against being, kids will be afraid to come out. Nobody wants to be taboo (except maybe the Black Eyed Peas guy.) Congrats to this soldier for coming out to family, making national television, and inspiring other gay kids and aspiring soldiers.
In the words of Randy Phillips (the soldier), “Tomorrow will probably be a great day, but I’m okay with today.” (Not related to the post, but this quote from one of his other videos stuck with me.)