MTV and DADT and whatever other acronyms

This post will be pretty much completely bifurcated, but that’s alright because both topics are meaningful. I’ll start with the more obscure:

Brad, Robert, and I have been contacted by MTV to plug a new special following “It Gets Better.” The one hour documentary aims to illustrate the struggles, both intense and non-existent, that LGBT teens, 15-25, have gone through or are going through. It is important to MTV to find a range of people to really show the spectrum that gay kids represent. They are looking for everything from kids who were disowned by their parents to kids who never had a problem. Please read on here (MTV website.) Apply if you want and pass the info on to your friends!

I also want to recognize the enactment of the DADT repeal on Monday. I believe all the dross some congressmen and lobbying groups spit about the repeal diminishing the effectiveness of our military is complete and utter bullshit. If anything, keeping secrets from your brothers and sisters on the front line is more poisonous than the imagined discomfort being openly gay would cause everyone. But this is a moot point because the military and military advisers can now focus on more pressing issues (like air conditioning!) I just want to share this video that I’m sure many of you have already seen because it was featured on the Daily Show and more news circuits I’m sure. This soldier shows two different sides to not just being gay in the military, but the coming out process in general. He is of course tense about coming out to his parents because it’s stressful to everyone. He and his father show everyone that there are no stereotypes or preconceived biases when it comes to military families. The on problem is that this soldier is still subjected to being afraid of those biases even though they’re not real. He is afraid his parents won’t accept for whatever reason without having a rationale for the fear. The real struggle for gay kids and adults coming out isn’t what people say to them. It’s what they say to others and it’s what they keep quiet about. Until there is no stigma against being, kids will be afraid to come out. Nobody wants to be taboo (except maybe the Black Eyed Peas guy.) Congrats to this soldier for coming out to family, making national television, and inspiring other gay kids and aspiring soldiers.

In the words of Randy Phillips (the soldier), “Tomorrow will probably be a great day, but I’m okay with today.” (Not related to the post, but this quote from one of his other videos stuck with me.)


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4 Responses to MTV and DADT and whatever other acronyms

  1. Jay M. says:

    I hope the three of you will apply and be accepted for the show. You’re all coherent, intelligent, and able to communicate well to all ages. Good luck.

    I’m so happy to see DADT go. My buddy in the Army (a Company Commander) sums it up: “I don’t care who you go to bed with, just do your damn job!”
    Next is DOMA!
    Peace ❤

    • I agree. The best of luck with the show. As for the other acronyms, I have to say that I am really sorry that your generation has to go through all of that. I see my students today that are out of the closet before they even hit high school and I just can’t imagine what it must be like to live in America as a gay kid.

      It was interesting for me this year, because I realized that this is the first class that was born after gay rights were officially recognized here and every student in our system now has been educated in the times after gay marriage, adoption, and entitlements came into effect. I already know that I have at least 12 students with same-sex parents coming for interviews in October and nobody even bats an eyelash. I have legally recognized transgender students and phys ed classes run like clockwork. We didn’t even need permission forms to march in the Pride Parade last week unless you were carrying the banner- and that was just for liability.

      I simply cannot see the reason, the rationale, or the legitimacy of letting these arguments drag on and I hope that your generation will be the last generation that loses any happiness over this issue.

  2. Did you notice how different his voice was in this video? He must have been Incredibly nervous.

    I presume you guys are out to your parents. How did all that go?

  3. Jeffrey says:

    Brad, Robert, Ben,

    Best of luck getting on the show. I sincerely hope that you are chosen.
    @Daniel, your comment (above) really struck me as to how far we really have come. To add to your synopsis, the IT company where I work has an extremely open and welcoming atmosphere. It really isn’t accurate to say that they accept LGBT people. We’re about 50 years beyond that. Rather than being “accepting” or “affirming”, no one flippin’ cares if you’re gay or not. Do you have skills? Can you work with others and not be a jerk? Sweet! Wanna job?

    Yes, it really does get that much better. Of the seven or eight senior managers where I work, two of them are openly gay. Another gay man is a highly skilled computer engineer. We have liberals and conservatives, hipsters, heavily tattooed guys, guys with shaved heads and interesting beards, moms and dads, second generation geeks, total nerds, musicians, gamers, bloggers, athletes, writers, skydivers, skaters, and on and on. What brings us together? A place where who you are and where you come from are trivia and what you can do and — especially — how you relate to others is your ticket to ride.

    This is the new world that we (including guys like you) are creating. Here’s to all of us.

    Best of luck,


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