If everybody is one thing, then everybody is nothing.
You may not realize it, but you judge people. Everybody, all the time. You categorize people based on looks, personality, intelligence, and of course sexuality. People always say, “Don’t judge.” But it’s a normal human function to judge. So know that everyone you look at who looks back is judging you.
Now comes the fun part. People will only judge and categorize based on unique characteristics. Knowing that every single person at your school has a grade point average is not very useful for determining the valedictorian. What people judge and remember is everything that makes you unique. Do you want to be your friend or your peer or your teammate? No, because he’s a douche. Just kidding, but in all seriousness individuality is the basis of human communication.
There are times when it is appropriate to show people what they want to see. There are even times when it is important. But it is never necessary. You are you, and that is going to come bursting forth sooner or later. Good or bad, embarrassing or exotic, let that shit shine. It’s who you are.